Advice-Couples-Counseling-Relationship-Therapy-MarriageYou may feel unhappy in your current situation. Perhaps you are waiting for someone to change, believing that’s what you need in order to be happy. It is true that others impact how you feel. However, when you base your happiness on someone else’s ability to change, you may be giving up the power to change your own life.

There is nothing inherently wrong with waiting or wanting someone to change. Just remember: You are ultimately responsible for our own happiness or unhappiness—so it makes no sense to blame your unhappiness on others or expect others to make you happy.

If your happiness hinges on someone else, start by considering changes that you can affect. Remind yourself that you have a choice in how you live day-to-day. You alone are responsible for your happiness.

Article By: Sevin Philips, MFT


  1. Dress Pants ` on October 12, 2010 at 2:29 am

    Happiness is the goal of every human being in this planet , everyone wants to be happy.:”

  2. Mobile Hard Drive : on October 23, 2010 at 6:03 pm

    everyone aims to have happiness on their lives and live a life that is full of it~’`

    • Administrator on November 6, 2010 at 12:24 am

      well said. wishing you much joy.

      • Administrator on November 22, 2010 at 5:08 pm

        Thank. Same to you. Sevin

  3. scooterdude on January 23, 2011 at 2:44 pm

    So if you are married to a person who has a personality disorder, and you have kids with this person and they are a lousy parent and an awful spouse, how does one find happiness in this situation? Or, if one is married to an abusive spouse and can’t, for one reason or another, support themselves to find a way out, how does one find happiness? Can one find happiness in prison?
    Aren’t we wired to need other people for happiness? Can we find happiness in solitude? Aren’t we really all alone anyway?
    Your thoughts please….

    • sevinphilips on February 5, 2011 at 11:52 am

      People, places and things effect our happiness. An abusive situation may last a lifetime. My point is: you cannot make someone else responsible for making your happiness come true. And you may not find happiness due to your situation.

      Happiness in Prison, being wired to need people, being in solitude, and the truth that we are really alone; Happiness can be found and not be found in all these situations.