Advice-Couples-Counseling-Relationship-Therapy-MarriageThe great obsession of human beings is to feel like we know what is going on in our lives and, consequently, feel in control. Not knowing, on the other hand, can be scary, if not terrifying, for most of us. This unpleasant feeling drives us away from the empty space of the unknown as we grasp for answers.

Fear of the unknown is an endless cycle of suffering. Why is it endless? Because not knowing is a natural part of life; hence, it cannot be avoided. Why do we suffer from not knowing? Because we resist its nature. No matter how smart or wise we become, we cannot outrun not knowing.

Not knowing is an essential part of moving past challenging experiences and into the life we truly desire. Bypassing this step can actually impede us from knowing our next right action.

I support all people in knowing, exploring, and becoming more aware of their experiences. I only encourage you to be willing to sit still at times, without knowing the outcome, and listen. All things are born from stillness.

I said to my soul, be still, and wait without hope
For hope would be hope for the wrong thing; wait without love
For love would be love of the wrong thing; there is yet faith
But the faith and the love and the hope are all in the waiting.
Wait without thought, for you are not ready for thought:
So the darkness shall be the light, and the stillness the dancing.

— T.S. Eliot

Article by: Sevin Philips, MFT