According to Statistic Brain Research Institute (2015), fifty-one percent of single Americans believe that flattery is the best way to attract someone, 25% of single Americans believe that flirting is an effective way to let someone know you are interested in him or her.
So, you finally have a date with the man of your dreams! Yay! But, how do you keep his attention? Hmm…now that is the hard part. You definitely don’t want your first date to be your last date, so what can you do to keep his eye on you? In other words, what can you do to keep your dreamy guy’s attention – mentally, emotionally, and yes, even physically! Questions, questions, questions… What to do? Well, the main thing you want to do is be yourself. What does that mean? It means putting your best foot forward, and not faking who you are.
You want to appear attractive, mature, fun, easy-going, and mentally stable. Tall order, isn’t it? But, thankfully, it is doable. With those characteristics, any man will be jumping at the chance to get to know you better, which ultimately equals to a second, third, and even fourth date or more. Score! So, remember to make a fantastic first impression. And, guess what? You have control over that! You may not have control over how your dream man behaves or appears to you, but you have control over how you behave or appear to him.
So, are you ready to learn some crafty tips on how to entice your dream man, and leave him wanting more? Great! Let’s get started.
Look Your Best
You know just as well me that you need to look your best on your first date, and any subsequent dates. And, you know the reason why, so I don’t even need to explain it to you. So, “freshen up” and dress appropriately for the occasion. What does dress appropriately for the occasion mean? Well, it means, if you are going to a football game, throw on a not-too-short pair of shorts or a cute pair of jeans (preferably bootleg or skinny jeans), a cute tank top (stay away from showing too much cleavage, and stay away from too tight or too loose jeans), and cute sandals or clean tennis shoes. And, if you want to make your outfit really cute, pull your hair back in a ponytail and throw on a baseball cap. On the other hand, if you are going to dinner or to a more formal event (i.e. museum, dinner, an opera, a play), wear a nice pant suit, skirt and blouse, or dress.
Just make sure the skirt is not too short, and the suit, blouse, or dress isn’t too tight. You don’t want to look “cheap” and “easy.” Make sure you are clean, smell nice, and have combed/brushed hair. Also, make sure your nails are clipped and/or polished. And, if you wear makeup, throw on some light, flattering lipstick, blush and/or eyeliner. Don’t overdo it! Note: If you clothes are too tight or too uncomfortable, you will be distracted during your date, which will not help you score a second one. Lastly, if possible (if you are not allergic to it), splash on a dab or two of perfume – men love a fresh-smelling woman. Just don’t go overboard with the scent – he may have allergies of his own.
Just Be Yourself
Yeah, I know that is harder than it sounds, but you can do it. Truth-be-told, our first inclination is to try to “please” the person we are trying to impress, but don’t do that. Why? Well, because he will most likely see right through your charade. Instead, just be your usual funny, adorable self, and if he doesn’t like you for who you are, maybe he isn’t so dreamy after all. In that case, pick your chin up off the ground, and move on to someone – better. So, how should you be yourself on the first date?
Well, bring up topics that are interesting to both you and your dream man. Do you both like sports? Do you work in the same field? Do you both like the same types of music, movies, and/or books? Yes? Well, talk about the things you have in common. But, do not lie about who you are and what you like and dislike, just to get him to like you more. The first date is the time to start building trust, and you can’t do that if you start out lying. Be honest, even if you perceive your omissions as “weaknesses.” I guarantee that your dream man will not think of you as pathetic for telling the truth, but he will think of you this way, if he finds out later that you lied to him.
So, you probably don’t feel all that comfortable during the first date. Let’s face it, you are nervous, and your hands and armpits are probably sweating profusely, but do what that old commercial says and “Don’t let him see you sweat.” How to do you do that? Well, first wear strong deodorant, and then “fake it until you make it.” Show him that you are indeed a confident person, even if you don’t feel so confident at the moment. Men love confident, self-assured, non-arrogant and non-self-centered women.
In other words, show your dream guy that you believe in yourself. How should you do that? Well, talk to him about your dreams, and where you would like to be in the future. Share with him any steps you are taking to make your dreams come true, and ask him about his dreams and his steps. Most men also love ambitious women – women with a plan. What does this accomplish? Well, it shows your man that you do not need him to “save you.” Also, share with “Mr. Perfect” the things that make you special – unique (i.e. a talent, skills, hobby, and/or interest).
Show Interest & Flirt
You definitely need to show interest, if you are hoping for a second date. So, when your date is sharing his interests, hobbies, preferences, etc. with you – PAY ATTENTION! And, ask questions, so he can elaborate on what he is telling you. In other words, do not sit there and stare at him in silence, and don’t laugh at inappropriate times (like when you are not paying attention, and feel you should do something to let him know you are still there). In addition, maintain eye contact with him, nod frequently, and smile every once in a while. Moreover, do not dominate the conversation – allow him to talk without interruptions from you. Also, share your thoughts, opinions, beliefs, interests, hobbies, etc. with him – keep the conversation balanced. Furthermore, flirt a little. Compliment your date on his attire, accomplishments, intellect, and/or characteristics (i.e. humor). And, gracefully accept compliments from him by responding with “Thank you.” Rub him his arm or back from time-to-time, and lean in closer to him, while talking to him. Lastly, at the end of the date, subtly let him know that you are interested in seeing him again, by saying; “I had a wonderful time tonight, and look forward to seeing you again.”
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