-online-dating-attract-therapyAccording to the Pew Research Center (2015), one-in-five online daters have asked someone else to help them with their profile.
Are you new to the online world of dating? If so, you are definitely NOT alone. In fact, there are thousands, if not millions, of “newbies” entering this arena every day. Why do most people decide to try online dating? Well, some do it because they are shy, timid, or lack the appropriate social skills, while others do it because of a lack of time – they are too busy with work or school obligations to get out and mingle the old fashioned way. And, yet some people venture into online dating because they are lazy, bored of meeting people at the same places, or looking for a deeper connection, sans the physicality of meeting people face-to-face. So, as you can see people embrace online dating for a variety of reasons. There is no shame in going the online dating route; in fact it gets more and more popular every day.

So, what is the best way to attract a woman through a dating website? Well, first you need to be yourself. In other words, do not attach a picture of someone else to your profile and claim that it is you (think catfishing). Why? Well, because it is dishonest, and as the saying goes, “What is done in the dark will eventually come to light.” In other words, you will eventually get caught, and any relationship that you formed with a woman will be destroyed. Same goes with your profile description (of yourself and your interests) – do not claim to be someone you are not. For instance, do put on your profile that you are an entrepreneur, when you are actually a sales rep for Walmart. Be honest, and if it is meant to be, she will like you for the person you really are. So, make sure you have a well-written, friendly, easy-going, professional profile, so you can woo the type of woman, you’d be proud to take home to mama.

So, are you ready to dig right in and find the woman of your dreams? Yes? Great, here are the steps to help you do just that!

Be Honest When Describing Yourself

One of the most important things you will need to do, if you want to attract a woman, is be honest. That means being honest about your name, height, age, weight, appearance, income, job, interests, and most importantly, what you are looking for in a partner and relationship. Lying leads to nowhere. If you are not honest with potential partners, they will feel betrayed and flee from you. Now, you don’t want that do you? No, I didn’t think so. So, please don’t lie or misrepresent yourself. Do not misunderstand me, I’m not saying share your whole relationship history with a potential partner, even if she asks you to, because that will come to no good as well.

What I am saying is that it is important to find that right balance when sharing information with a woman, but whatever you decide to share, make sure it is the truth. So, to sum it up, a potential partner does not need to know every single detail as to why your last relationship failed or everything that makes you sad, or why you are so lonely or so single. If woman pesters you to share things that you aren’t comfortable sharing at the time, simply tell her you are not ready to talk about that yet, but do not lie or make things up to pacify her. Some details are best saved until you are sure you want to develop a long-term relationship with the person. So, on your online dating profile, describe yourself as someone easy-going and happy. Don’t come across as a psycho or someone, who is aloof, strange, or looking for too much too soon, when it comes to romantic relationships.

Create a Catchy Profile Description
If you really want to attract the “perfect” woman for you, the best thing you can do is to create a catchy profile description. First, avoid using “common” adjectives in your description. What do I mean by “common” adjectives? Well, I mean adjectives like: I am…cool, fun, flirty, pretty, smart, fit, curvy, and/or sweet. Why? Well, because everyone uses those same adjectives when describing themselves, so you will most likely get lost in the crowd, when the woman that could be your future partner or wife goes searching for the person of her dreams.

Remember, your potential partner only has your profile description and picture to go by when deciding whether to initiate contact or respond to your message; therefore, it is important that you make the best impression through those two items. In other words, the only way you are going to be able to catch the eye of the woman you are interested in, is by grabbing her attention with a catchy phrase and description. Start off by creating an eye-catching headline that describes yourself in a creative way. Include things that are unique to you such as: “I enjoy skinny dipping, mojitos after dark, and cuddling under the stars.” Spark her interest with a tidbit of enticing information, and trust me, she will be begging to get to know you better.

Choose Your Profile Picture Wisely
Another good thing to keep in mind, if you are trying to attract a woman online, is that your profile picture speaks volume in cyberspace. In other words, it is extremely important that you put the “right” kind of picture on your profile. Why? Well, because that is the first thing your dream girl is going to see when she begins browsing profiles. And, contrary to popular belief, naked and vulgar pictures are not going to attract the type of woman you are probably looking for. Now, if you are looking for a one-night stand or casual dates, then go head and put those sexy pictures on your profile, but if you are looking for something deeper and longer lasting, then you are probably going to want to put a good picture of yourself doing something you love to do (i.e. playing soccer, football, or basketball), or dressed up for work (i.e. business suit, police officer uniform, firefighter suit, etc.). You can also attach a playful picture, just as long as it isn’t too silly. A guy playing with his dog and/or young nieces and nephews will attract a multitude of women. Be creative – not crass. Also, make sure that women can see your face – complete face on the picture. Side views can be misrepresentative of what you really look like. And, lastly please use your own picture. Catfishing others just isn’t cool.

Ask a Trusted Friend for His or Her Opinion

Once you have completed your profile, ask a trusted friend for his or her opinion on it before it goes live. Ask your friend if your profile description is accurate, too vague, too detailed, too silly or too “stiff?” Also, ask him or her, if what you description, along with your picture is an accurate representation of who you really are. Lastly, ask your friend to look for grammatical errors, typos, and awkward sentences. You want to appear educated and knowledgeable. If possible, ask both a male and female friend to review your profile before it becomes active.
Good Luck!

References:
Marder, A. (2015). Online dating 101. Men’s Health. Retrieved from http://www.mensfitness.com/women/dating-advice/online-dating-101
Pew Research Center. (2015). 5 facts about online dating. Retrieved from http://www.pewresearch.org/fact-tank/2015/04/20/5-facts-about-online-dating/